Sunday, June 30, 2013

YOUR HEALTH OR YOUR LIFE[1] © 2013 by Wayne Dan Lewis, Sr.


What is this?
I don’t usually like to start off this way, but for all intents and purposes, this post should not be considered an economic, medical, or sociological report or advice on what to choose, or how to proceed in matters relating to you and your family’s health.  Please consult your respective medical professional. This post is a commentary on the perception of Healthcare in America, here in 2013.  With so many components to healthcare in America, it is difficult to narrow down a position that addresses the need for not only affordable healthcare, but healthcare at all, here in America.

To those of us, who can barely afford health insurance costs, let alone the associated healthcare costs (deductibles, tests, co-pays) the decisions on what will work best for us, may not be made at the kitchen table.  It is a good possibility that the affordability, irrespective of the Affordable Healthcare Act[2], will be made by our federal and state legislators, many of whom maybe exempt from the very laws that they pass for us as constituents[3].   Lawmakers’ greatest influence will no doubt be, insurance companies who work feverishly to protect themselves as well from the rising costs of medical care, understandably, on one hand.  However on the other hand, do insurance companies really provide a service when it comes to providing healthcare coverage when those in need aren’t able to get the needed protection that they bought into?  Our influence as consumers, however slight, will come down to how well we affect an influential, albeit opposing, countermeasure to how our insurance coverage meets our needs and too, have as great as if not greater influence on those who ultimately set laws and policies.  It is literally a battle for each of us, and we have to be relentless in every aspect of fighting for favorable, effective and efficient healthcare coverage.  It is literally a matter of life or health.


I share this perspective not because I am fully informed, but because I am afraid, and (did I say confused already?) want to know what will be the best option for me and my family going forward.  The word “reform” has a positive connotation to it when used to encourage us as voters as a need for change, but underneath the surface, the term reform suggests to the greatest degree that something I need will cost more, be denied, or will require more stringent guidelines be followed, and of course, paperwork to be completed by patients, doctor and other healthcare providers and servicers.  It is frightening and confusing for this consumer.



The Solution:
Even if we can’t agree on what the answer is, or how to handle it, the solution will come down to which group of citizens voice their concerns the greatest.  When we look at how attitudes about healthcare have changed in the last 4 to 6 years alone, it is important to understand that a lot of emails, letters, and phone calls were made to senators and congressional representatives, who may have listened, and who may have acted reasonably enough to bring about the changes that we are now seeing taking place.  The solution is plain and simple, get out and make your voices heard.

Knowing the Terrain
When we sit in our doctors offices and emergency rooms, we generally have one objective:  to stay well, or get well.  The decisions made between us and our doctors, seemingly confidentially, are being fed into computers and are being analyzed and re-analyzed by our doctors and the insurance companies.  The doctors have to be sure to code our records properly insure that they are administering the best in medical care, per our insurance program.  Insurance companies, whom many of us pay, and whom many of us believe that we have paid handsomely, look very closely to see where their dollars are being applied so as not to overpay or pay at all for an aspect of our care, that, God-forbid, isn’t life threatening, but nevertheless, must not be paid for out of their funds, that we paid into.  Confusing?  It appears to be no accident, if any of us are confused.  It appears to be by design.  The insurance business is a service. And that service is ever changing, little by little to little by little.  As consumers of the service of insurance, we are the ones who have to decide what illness to have in order to be sure that we are covered.  It’s like a 3-way game of Chest between us, our doctors and the insurance companies, with the insurance companies seemingly having the upper hand.  And the upper hand extends to our legislators and congressional representatives, apparently. 

Knowing all of this may seem insignificant, but it should help us understand that when we sit in the doctor’s offices, or in the ER, that our health is not really determined by how deeply we take a breath on the examining table, or by the fact that we tell the doctor where it hurts.  It is determined by how much our legislators listen to insurance lobbyists, and for us, it may appear best if we just stay at home and take a bottle of pills.  For the insurance companies, that would be great, as long as we continue to pay our premiums.  For the doctors and nurses, not so good.  And for us, well, it comes down to our health or our lives, and the odds don’t appear to be in favor of our health, financially.



Overview (selective)
In a country with a quickly rising aging population, myself included, it is extremely evident that the debate of how to provide adequate and affordable healthcare is a discussion that can’t be disregarded, or passed on to the next generation.  The next generation is here, and they, unsuspectingly, maybe the most affected by the decisions being made today.  That “next generation” must also be encouraged to get on the phone, do emails, or even tweet their concerns, now more than ever, about the rising costs of healthcare, and the growing limited availability, “Obamacare”[4] notwithstanding.

For many of our politicians, it will be easy to take healthcare off of the table for the next generation because like so many young people, unless they are catastrophically ill, whatever is done to healthcare in America will not affect them for some time to come.  Our young people, bless their hearts, could be unaware how quickly their lives can change, and how disconnected they maybe to the actions of today that will affect them tomorrow.


Here is an overview of what many of us face with respect to healthcare (in no set order):

  • Employer paid benefits-  group insurance plans where employers pay better than possibly a 1/3 or more of the employee monthly premiums, are not beyond looking for a reasonable means of reducing their costs in employee assistance in order to protect their business investment(s). For employees, it is not out of the possibility that they may face a reduction in their full-time status where employers would no longer have to pay any portion of their insurance coverage.  Employees, if they so desire, would have to pay the entire premium through COBRA (The Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act (COBRA) [5], further cutting into their take-home pay;

  • Cuts to Mental Health Services-[6] The crucial need for mental health care can never be understated.  Many healthcare providers and caregivers are overwhelmed with trying to maintain quality services when it comes to treating those who are mentally ill. And yet, cuts are coming profusively when it comes to mental healthcare.


  • Disabled American citizens -who receive any form of governmental assistance are not exempt either from consideration for having a reduction or discontinuing of healthcare benefits when the budget axe is swung, almost blindly, and without concern.


  • Medicaid Coverage-is now, more than ever, under the budget magnifying glass.  For those who have receive this “free” form of healthcare coverage, be on the lookout that in the not too distant future, recipients maybe cut off, or the requirements maybe amended so that in order to receive Medicaid benefits, individuals and families will have to meet more stringent requirements.


  • Catastrophic Illness-for any of us, can practically wipe out our life savings.  It can put us “on the street” to the point where we could find ourselves not knowing where our next meal is coming from, to say nothing of how it may affect our families.


This overview maybe speculative at best, but the history is there.  The discussions that continue are in place to reduce or eliminate healthcare coverage, at whatever cost possible, and for many of us, whether employed, military, or disabled, it will matter not based on compassion, but on the bottom line.

The Solution-again
Contrary to popular belief, writing your state or federal representatives does work.  The key to voicing our concerns is knowing what to focus on, and being persistent.  Another key component in addressing our concerns is through a group of individuals or associations that share in the concerns that are most vital to us. 

Perhaps no part of the above overview is relevant to anyone of us.  That is a good possibility.  If anyone of us is in good physical health, have great genes, and don’t fear the wrath of nature (heart attack, cancer, stroke, or any other life-changing illness or disease), then perhaps this perspective is of no consequence.  But there are a number of us who face issues that are happening everyday.   Many of us face heart attacks, prostrate cancer, breast cancer, lung cancer, strokes, mental illness and more than our share of catastrophic illnesses, that insurance companies are not likely to cover, or cover at the very least. 

What do we know or need to know?
It literally comes down to our health or our lives, despite the fact that the Affordable Healthcare Act[7] is supposed to cater to all of our medical needs, in theory.  But the problem is that we will be forced to decide between truly affordable healthcare or none at all.  While we are aware that the Affordable Healthcare Act is supposed to kick-in in full by 2014, it is still unclear how we will be protected.  All we know is that it shouldn’t pay for abortions, and that if we don’t buy health insurance, we will be penalized.  What we also are aware of is that employers (with over 50 employees) may take the option to layoff employees in order to avoid meeting the requirements of The Act. 


What we need to know is that there will be no ambiguity in terms of what the Affordable Healthcare Act promises.  We need to know that any existing illnesses will be covered.  We need to know that we aren’t going to be denied coverage for an unconventional illness, or a need for surgery that could save our lives.  Last, but not least, we need to know that our children will be covered without being stuck between a rock and a hard place because the criterion isn’t clear as to what needs to be brought before the doctor 11:59p.m. December 31, 2013 and 12:01, January 1, 2014.
 

We need to know that we are not being thrown to the wolves because our employers decide not to pay for our coverage.  We need to know that we are not going to be thrown under the bus  as our lives perceivably hang in the balance because all of a sudden, we are responsible for a $500.00 monthly insurance premium as opposed to the previously understood amount of $195.00 monthly, for example.   We need to know that our representatives are looking out for us, but we also need to know how to contact our representatives, now more than ever, because it appears that healthcare, as we currently know it, is about to head for the sunset, and many of us, regardless of whether we are healthy, or facing a catastrophic illness, may be sitting in the waiting rooms of hospitals and doctors’ offices while our lives are bounced back and forth because of politics.


The Solution?
I continue to stress this solution because as constituents, we are promised so much by politicians.  From the Presidents of the United States, to our Senators and Congressmen, to our Governors, State Representatives, to our Mayors/Parish Presidents to out Council members and Aldermen.  We have been promised so much, only to find that the promises came with a few caveats, quid pro quos, or “were not even possibles”, but sounded good enough to get our votes down, and our hopes up, that we were going to essentially be made or remain whole, at least from a healthcare standpoint.

I am not trying to repeat myself, because I believe that I made myself clear.  This is very important.  While many of us are content to believe that the Affordable Healthcare Act is the law of the land, there are forces alive and in full force to ready to put this act out of its misery. And if timing serves them right, many of us will need to make sure that we have all of our final papers in order.  The rug could be pulled out from under us and we could possibly be without any coverage, whatsoever.  Our solution rests securely in contacting our representatives and let them know, that our healthcare needs to be maintained, and that we can’t be left wondering whether to choose between our health or our lives because of budget cuts or major changes to the Affordable Health Care Act.

The Future of Healthcare

Do we really know the future of healthcare?  From Medicare to Veterans Care, each have a yoke to carry when it comes to costs.  Government agencies look, supposedly, at everything when it comes time to trim the budget.  They look at education, law enforcement, infrastructure, even their beloved “pork barrel” projects in an effort to ensure the best use of tax payer dollars.  When it comes to businesses, their bottom line is shrinking.  Government regulations, including the Affordable Care Act, work relentlessly to put businesses at a great disadvantage in providing equitable benefits to their employees.  However, businesses are apparently becoming frustrated to where they are striking back, including cutting hours or laying off in order to make a profit.  And finally, we the consumers.

As consumers, our healthcare will be determined by our ability to actually afford healthcare, irrespective of the term “affordable”.  Even if we receive “free healthcare”, we are not without responsibility in terms of the outcome, where if we are caught between legislation that says we should receive healthcare regardless of pre-existing and current policies, we, the consumer, the patient, the constituent, are responsible with little to fall back on for help should be stuck out.

Pray
Going forward, I hope that many of us never have to experience a loss of healthcare.  I hope that we will always be able to receive the very best of care, regardless of our ability to pay.  But, given the fact that those who decide our fate, are the least likely to have to incur the trials or tribulations that may befall us, if I have said nothing else of importance here, I hope that you will continue to be in prayer.  Having worked in hospitals (non-medical positions), I have seen a tremendous number of people at their worst.  I have worked at 2 of the best healthcare facilities in this area.  Even I have been a patient and can tell you with no certainty that me leaving any medical facility was no guarantee.  They even make you sign a paper that indicates that you may die even if the treatment may not be life threatening.

My point is, we are not guaranteed life or even a healthy life.  No one can assure us that medical care will always be successful, but it should be, affordable.  We, as patients, consumers, constituents, should be able to receive the same level of care as those who decide our fates in the state legislatures and the House of Congress.  If complaints are that taxpayer dollars should not be spent exorbitantly, then let those who represent us receive the same level of care as they dictate through laws and policies.  But then, we still have to get past the insurance companies.  And in that case, we better pray, really, really hard.  Because even if we can get lawmakers to get a heart to care, insurance companies seem to always be ready to pull the plug.  Correct me, if I’m wrong.  Pray.

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[1] Information provided is from various sources and is not guaranteed reliable.  Should not be considered legal, medical or financial advice. Consult your respective professional for decisions regarding your own matters.

Sunday, June 23, 2013

WHAT DO YOU BRING TO THE TABLE? © 2013 by Wayne Dan Lewis, Sr.



It is not an original question, but for each of us, it should be an original answer.   We are the way that we are for a reason.  The reason?  Well, that’s why this discussion.  There are so many components to this question that the more I thought about it, I had to realize why so many people may have trouble answering it. 

First of all, why the question to begin with?  Many businesses and employers ask this question in varying ways.  They may ask us to tell them something about ourselves.  Or, they may ask us to give them an idea of what will we do to make their businesses successful.  For us, the answer, whatever it maybe, should suggest that we aren’t bringing baggage.  The kind of baggage that will affect their businesses.  Such as an arrest record, or having participated in an activity, or having affiliated with a group that may seem to have (on the surface) engaged in an activity that might otherwise embarrass them.


Chances are, the person who is asking this question has something to be the most concerned about.  The fact that they are asking this question, may mean that they are close to making an important decision.  It could mean that we are in line for a position next to the proverbial throne, unless----

Unless, we have too much drama in our lives.   The kind of drama that for many businesses will bring them too much attention, or cause them to have to defend their decisions.  Unless, that seemingly, insignificant act in high school, on a previous job, or something that we posted on line, maybe just one thing that they, as a business, may not want to deal with.  It’s not their responsibility, and they don’t want the baggage that we bring to the table.


Determining what we bring to the table may best be answered by five simple components.  Those components, as best I can go about it, is to put it into some type of a multi-faceted, simple approach: 
            Who?  What?   When?  Why?   How?

Obviously, we don’t answer a question with a question.  But given the complexity of the original question, it may help us to have an understanding about the source of a question that asks us from a general perspective, what is it about us that makes us the best qualified for anything.  Anything?  Well, almost anything.   As unrealistic as that possibility maybe, it is just as unrealistic to believe that we are not good for anything either.  So, why not choose the best of the two extremes? 


Using the simple approach we suggested above as a guide, let’s put together a few questions to help us understand the topic question:

  1. Who are you?  Who is asking the question?
  2. Who really cares about what you bring to the table?
  3. What is it that you actually bring to table?  What is the value of what you bring to the table?
  4. When should you make it known what it is that you have of value?  When should you withhold what it is that you have, that could make a difference in your life or the lives of others?
  5. Why is it so important to others that you bring anything of value to the table?  Why is it that others seem to put so much of value on what you bring to the table?
  6. How do you develop that which makes you so important to others?  How do you protect what you have to either maintain it, or even to make it more valuable?

These are just a few dry-run questions for us to ponder going forward.  We may want to provide our own questions to help ourselves depending on whom we meet or the circumstances before us.  Whether we will discover the answers in this setting is a matter of further investigation, particularly of ourselves.  The topic question is too important to trust to this discussion, but if nothing else, we need to agree on some type of format that may help us discover not just for the short run, but for the long term, what it is we bring to the table.


When does it start for us to prepare for “the table”?
Most often, we are prepared throughout our lives for jobs or careers.  While I have nothing to support this claim, I have to believe that from as early as when we begin walking, and our various personalities begin to form, we are being prepared for “the table”.  Our parents and families were already beginning to pigeon-hole or typecast us.  They were already imagining the best for us.  I for example, watch our grandson, Josh, Jr.  We are already placing him as a fireman because he loves fire trucks.  He has a fleet of toy fire trucks, and fire stations.  We even bought him a simulated hose nozzle so that he could “put out fires” (actually, he is watering the flowers in the front yard, but that is neither here nor there).  We have already advised him not to play with matches or fire and that he should call for help under any circumstances.

Then, little Josh developed a love for building with his blocks.  With his building blocks build some very imaginative and impressive little designs.  Now, in our minds, he is going to be an architect, or an engineer.  This is what we do as parents, we imagine the best for our children, if for no other reason, the personalities that appear to give us a snapshot into who our children are, and quite possibly, whom they may become.

If our type-casting of our children is not a sure-thing, then society tries to take over and script for us and our children the direction that it wants our children to go.  For little boys, generally speaking, they should “want” to play sports (basketball, football, or baseball).  For little girls, generally speaking, they should “want” to go to dance school, play with dolls, or prepare for motherhood by practicing with baby dolls.  At least I think that’s what society is still doing.  I could be wrong. 

But even if society is allowing our children to grow up to become who they really want to be, through their formative years between toddler and teen years, we can’t let our children go without preparing them for the world ahead.  It is up to us, not only as parents, but as family and friends, and as communities, to make sure that our children, like Josh, Jr. grow up to be successful in whatever their little dreams inspire them to achieve.  Even if their dreams continue well into adulthood, like us, for example.  The perspective never really changes. 


Whether as children, or as adults, we never stop dreaming.  It’s just a question as to what degree do we gradually slow our roll, if you will, from not only pursuing our dreams, but believing that it was only just that- just a dream.  The moment we begin to cease and desist in the pursuit of our dreams, I believe that we begin to doubt ourselves, or doubt that we will ever achieve what, at one time, we believed was ours to have.  But I also believe that many of us are waiting for any semblance of an opportunity to pursue that once elusive dream.

But what ‘I believe’ is immaterial.  What is material is the fact that for those of us who resolve to put our dreams on hold, we still need to believe that the ultimate track that we find ourselves on, will one day take us to where want to be.  How true that maybe is up to each one of us, but we have to conclude that where we are right now, right here and now, is not where we were shooting for as far back as the little kids at 4 or 5 years of age, any more than when we were at 14 or 15 years of age.  And, if we are past the 24 or 25 years of age, well that dream is beginning to fade because society tries to convince us that if we haven’t hit it big by the time we leave college (assuming we go to college), then our dreams, however big, or ambitious, will have to take a back seat to jobs, family, or whatever things that life has thrown us.  I am here to share with you that I don’t believe that our dreams ever have to take a backseat.

Video: What Do You Bring to the Table-Charlotte Stallings:

Hold On To Your Dreams!

Our dreams are just that:  our dreams.  The misconception that we should let our dreams die off the moment we reach a certain age, or an unplanned stage in our lives is ridiculous!  We must all realize that our dreams will not be categorized, or short-change by some arbitrary decisions of society.   Our dreams are our dreams.  I don’t believe that our dreams need to materialize to their fullest the day we hit 18, 28, or 58.  Pursuing our dreams should be non-stop.  Which is why in the pursuit of our dreams, we have to understand what people are looking for when they ask the question:  “What do you bring to the table?”   What is the relevance of the question?  Simple:  they want to know where we are in our lives. 

Employers, God bless them, want to know if we are going to be around for a short period of time until we hit the big time, or if we are going to stay around for awhile.  Communities want to know if we are going to give back to them where we once grew up, or are we going to hit the road as soon as we complete high school.  And of course schools and colleges, they want to know if we have aspirations to achieve great things, that is to say, are we going to be an asset to their program.

Everyone wants to know, what do you bring to the table.  And for many of us, our answers often are tailored to what we believe people want to hear to questions that we believe we were asked.  For example: 
  • Did we hear: “What exactly did you do to increase the bottom line of your last employer?”
  • Did we hear: “How much money did you save your last employer?”
  • Did we hear: “What was your grade point average in high school?”
  • Did we hear:  “Were you ever expelled from school?”
  • Did we hear:  “Were you ever fired?”
  • Did we hear:  “Do you get along well with others?”
  • Did we hear:  “Did you hold any positions of leadership in school or on your last job?”  Or,
  • Did we hear:  “What are you prepared to do to improve the productivity of our company?”

Video: Tony Robbins-Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

If  what we think we hear causes us to answer the topic question in a manner that does nothing for us after we have answered the question, then, we have only given the answer that we hoped the inquirer was asking.  It is important that we hear the question that we are asked.  And, like it or not, we must answer the question honestly.  We must give an answer that does not compromise what we are truly interested in achieving, even at the risk of loosing out on what it is right at our very feet.  

Often we answer these questions improperly because  we are so fixated on answering the way we believe others want us to respond.  We are conditioned, I believe improperly, to say what employers, school counselors, communities, and the like want to hear.  And when it comes time to produce according to how we have improperly sold ourselves, we come out on the loosing end.  Our credibility comes under question, and any possibility of a future is shattered because, we sold ourselves, and well as those whom we tried to impress, a bill of goods.  For all we could have done, we might as well just muddle through a few words and then, end with a “Miss  Congeniality” [1] response: “And World Peace!”

The answers that people are looking for, regardless of who asks, is an answer that is supposed to bowl them over, and all but force them to hire us, sign us up, or take us under their wing.  And if we answer correctly, for them, and for us, we are hoping that someone does just that.  We want someone to sign us up, to hire us, or take us under their wing.  Why?  Because, we said all that they wanted to hear.  Correct me, if I am wrong.

Video: Les Brown: Why Do People Fail in Life:

What if we say something that they don’t want to hear?

I am going to out on a limb here, and you can catch me if I fall, but, I don’t think it really matters what we say.  I don’t think it matters what we say as much as it matters what we do, or what we have done in our lives.  I believe that what we do will have a greater impact on where we go in our lives that what we will ever say.  You know the quote: Action speaks louder than words. [2]Well, our actions dictate our success, that’s what I believe and here is why.

Below are seven things that I believe people are judging when they meet us:

Eye contact-an action
Smile-an action
Handshake or a wave of the hand-an action
Greeting-an action
How we walk into a room-an action
How others react to us-an action.

“Hello!” Even if we speak to someone, it matters whether the greeting is exciting, or inviting, or if we give an air of not wanting to be where we are, particularly with that person.  All of these are actions that people are automatically cataloguing mentally from the time they meet us, to the time we leave their presence.  Why is this important?

It is important because our actions define our responses.  Above, the questions that we introduced are important to answer truthfully.  But how will someone know if we are answering truthfully?  Our body language.  Our body language tells those who asks us questions that we either are lying, or telling the truth.  I don’t have time to go into it, but I will include a link below for you to read. [3]  

If for example, from one of the questions above is: “Do you get along well with others?” Your response maybe “yes”, but your body may have subconsciously shifted at the question, or during the answer.  If, for example, another question is:  “What will the people say about you that you used to work with or went to school with?”  Your answer maybe that you got along well with everyone, but you dropped your eyes as you answered, another action.  Actions are the real truth teller when someone is trying to determine what it is you bring to the table.  So now, let’s bring this home.

“What Do You Bring to the Table?”

Whenever someone asks us this question, they are looking for action.  They are looking for something that we did in furtherance of our own dreams.   They may never say that, and perhaps, they don’t want to put us on the spot, but employers would like to know that the person they are looking to hire has ambition.  They would like to know that we are working on building a castle out of ice cream sticks in our attic, and that we had to start our project over 3 times.  To them, it shows commitment.

Our community would like to know that we are going to school to further our education so that we can become a micro-biologist. That shows we have a mind for facts and technical information.  Or, maybe we should share the fact that we and several friends organized a fund-raiser to help the community to send a group of kids on a trip cross-country.  This may show our ability to work well with others, our community spirit, or our willingness to share with others.  Is this what people are looking for?  Maybe not, but if we don’t share with others our goals, our dreams, and what it is we we have done or are trying to do with our lives, they will always see us as one of those people who can’t think for themselves, or who only says what they believe other people want to hear.

We don’t have to give our personal life’s story to everybody, but we do owe it to ourselves to share our dreams.  We owe it to ourselves to share the fact that we are on our way to accomplishing something great, and that if an employer would like to be counted along the way, they are welcomed.  We shouldn’t mind sharing our dreams with those who are interested in knowing what we bring to the table.  In sharing our dreams, we send a strong message to those who ask, “what we bring to the table?”

What do we bring?

When we share our dreams in response to the topic question, we change the dynamics of the interview.  We send a message that we maybe willing to compromise to a small degree, but that our dreams are not for sale, or that they are not to be put on the back burner.  

What we bring is confidence in knowing that in the long run, we have goals to set and plans to follow.  When we share our dreams, we bring enthusiasm, that many will benefit from, because we have set our sights on some great things, and anyone who is close to us will no doubt, get caught up in the “rapture” of our ambitions.

What we bring is our educational achievements.  Yes, there maybe a few C’s and D’s, but we worked hard for those grades, and we’ll take them in stride for where we are going in our lives.

What we bring is power and influence wherever needed to make life simpler and better for those in need.  We bring our wealth, however slight, to pay our way forward for our families and community.

What we bring is respect for ourselves, and for those who respect us and others.  But we also bring a willingness to stand up when those whom we love are threatened with great bodily harm.

We bring a limited amount of knowledge, but a willingness to learn so much more, because we can’t learn enough about what life has to offer, and what we can take advantage of.

We bring a heart-felt desire to make sure that our families are always safe and well cared for.

We bring developing skills, skills that have yet to be fully honed, because our environment is constantly changing, and no matter what, we will always be opened to learning new challenges.

We bring humility, knowing that we don’t know everything, and that we are going to make mistakes at along the way.  We bring the will to say “I’m sorry” whenever we hurt someone or cause someone great pain.

Last, but not least, we bring a sense of humor, because life is too short to take totally serious.  And with that sense of humor, we smile at a sunrise or a sunset, we smile when we see the people that we love happy, and we laugh at ourselves because sometimes, we crack ourselves up.

Speaking a foreign language?

Our past actions, together with our future goals, dreams and intentions are the measure of what we bring to the table.  All together, it is a culmination of our commitment to what we want to achieve in our lives.  Unfortunately, everyone does not want to hear what our dreams are.  And therein becomes a problem for many of us.  We worry that because of what we want to accomplish in our lives, that because it’s not what others want to hear, we begin to speak a foreign language.  That language is foreign because we are not speaking the language of our dreams, or our goals.  We begin speaking the language that we believe others want to hear, and before long, we acclimate not only our language to that of others, but our dreams as well.  Eventually, if we are not careful, we will abandon our own dreams.  And when we abandon our own dreams, we find ourselves saying what we believe others want to hear.  Suggestion:  Speak the language of our dreams.

No, most people aren’t going to want hear what we have to say.  But if we speak to what it is we want to see in our lives with enthusiasm, excitement and commitment, there is no doubt in my mind, that what we bring to the table will not be disregarded, nor overlooked.  By our actions and commitment to achieving our dreams, we will not have to answer the question “What do you bring to the table,” it will be all too clear.  And if they ask what we bring to the table, it is a great opportunity to exercise our language of ambition and enthusiasm, together with our belief in all that we want to accomplish.  So, let us speak loud and proud about our dreams, because they asked.  Otherwise, let our actions speak louder than words because we are committed to our dreams.

Now: What do your bring to the table?

Video:  Live your dream and share your passion! This is your life. Live, Laugh, Love. :)


[1] Miss Congeniality and “World Peace!”-http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3st-Hai1y54
[2] http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/Actions+speak+louder+than+words           
[3] Body language-http://www.bodylanguagesuccess.com/




Sunday, June 16, 2013

REPEAL AFFIRMATIVE ACTION, ET AL © 2013 by Wayne Dan Lewis, Sr.


The case of Fisher v University of Texas (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fisher_v._University_of_Texas) has been reportedly argued before the U.S. Supreme Court.  As of this post, the U.S. Supreme Court has not revealed its ruling, reason- unknown. The argument before the court was to find whether or not the University of Texas acted or failed to act according to the law regarding admissions relating to the plaintive’s attempted admission to the University of Texas, with respect to the plaintive’s race.  Abigail Fisher is a white female and the plaintive in this case.

The above referenced case notwithstanding, there is also an argument before the U.S. Supreme Court for the next session (October 2013) and that is to repeal Affirmative Action (see link below).  The arguments before the Court suggest that America no longer needs an Act that assures fairness in any of the processes that Affirmative Action was put in place to address.  The arguments put forth suggest that America has met the gold standard to provide equality throughout the land.  While there maybe merit to the arguments before the Court, it remains disingenuous that those who are calling for an end to Affirmative Action are not the historical victims, but the historically perceived aggressors or violators of Civil Rights.  That is like the fox saying “I haven’t eaten your chicken in years (that you know of), stop holding me back!” 

HB802 Repeal Affirmative Action:

What would make more sense would be if those who are the intended beneficiaries of Affirmative Action would come forth and speak loud and proud to the success of over 40 years of supposed Governmental intervention to improve hiring practices; to increase access to education; to remove voter suppressive activities; to improve the manner in which governmental contracts are awarded, or, to ensure that America’s Criminal Justice System did not work with one eye closed, whereby its prisons didn’t seem only to be suited for those of color, poor and/or the indigent.  But their voices are not at the forefront, but in fact, quite muffled, if not suppressed, by or prohibited by the failure of the very program that has yet to bring about the level of achievement promised by this landmark legislation. 

But it should not be a surprise to those who of us who are the intended beneficiaries of Affirmative Action that this act has not produced it desired it effects.  We should not be surprised because the beneficiaries were handicapped from the start.  That handicapped was the dependence on two aspects of American life:
1.      That those who were the supposed perpetrators of Civil Rights violations would cease and desist their acts of injustice visa vie discrimination in hiring, education, law enforcement and/or housing, to name a few areas;
2.      That those who were the supposed victims of Civil Rights violations would in fact, take advantage of every opportunity that this landmark legislation made a way for by going full speed ahead in obtaining their education, cease and desist participating in the criminal justice system through distribution drugs, committing criminal activities against one another up to and including murder and mayhem;  by collaborating more openly to partner and incorporate on business opportunities in their own communities, and by ceasing to participate in governmental programs that suppressed economic growth,  such as long-term welfare.

ET AL[1]-WHAT COULD BE NEXT?

Let us assume that the overwhelming desire to repeal Affirmative Action is successfully accomplished.  The reasons, however invalid, should not be a cause to panic.  But what is to come is.  America, no doubt, will celebrate like the 4th of July, having abolished a program that supposed was about quotas.  Never mind that it was about trying to establish fairness from a Constitution that supposedly was color-blind, gender neutral, or that, for whatever its worth, did not try to exempt anyone of its citizens regardless of their national origin, religion, or creed.  So what if Affirmative Action returns America to a time where Blacks will be excluded from job opportunities just because of their skin color?  Has much changed here in America?  That will be something we as people of color will have to just find a more constructive way to overcome.  Our ancestors did it before, I am sure that if Affirmative Action is no longer the law of the land, we’ll be alright, won’t we?  And if it is abolished, what could be next? Obamacare? Roe V. Wade? Voting Rights Act of 1965?  Lilly Ledbetter Act of 2010? Title IX of 1972? 

If none of the following are on the list, it would be a surprise.  But whether they are on the list not, America needs to panic.  Because this supposed Constitutionally-guided country has decided that the Constitution is not a relevant guide to maintaining the sovereignty of the United States.  There are those who believe that the Constitution was written in stone, and that anyone who came thereafter, is in violation of its original meaning.  Never mind the fact America was established because of Britain’s inflexibility to allow free speech, or to allow freedom of religion.  This country was established because there couldn’t possibly be a reason to exist unless one could exist without being searched or arrested without due process.  This country, that we call America, couldn’t possibly exist unless everyone of her citizens could be treated fairly, regardless of their physical and sexual differences.  If none of this is true, then Americans better panic because what’s next if Affirmative Action is ever repealed may well be a surprise.  But, I am betting that at least seven of the following legislative achievements are certainly on the “hit list” of landmark achievements that despite having either opened doors of opportunity, or improved the quality of life for a great number of American citizens, may not be available for too much longer.

1.      OBAMACARE-
We already know that the Affordable Care Act[2] is on the table.  We know that despite the fact that the Act, affectionately called ObamaCare, was modeled after the healthcare program of Massachusetts[3], under Republican Governor and former Presidential Candidate Mitt Romney[4], it is at the top of the list to be repealed.  Why has it been a target of the Republican-led Congress?  A wild guess, but it may have to do with the fact that President Obama, Democrat, successfully got it to pass, despite every obstacle put in his way, including references to raising taxes[5] and supporting abortion[6].  Nevertheless, it appears that the Affordable Healthcare Act must be repealed even as it promises to provide coverage for those with pre-existing conditions, or provide continued coverage for families with children still in school up to age 26.  This should not be assumed as presumption of support for the Affordable Healthcare Program.  I disagree with it too, but not entirely.  But I don’t agree to the “throw the baby out with the bathwater approach” to resolving the differences that are on the table.

House votes to repeal Obamacare for 37th time:


2.      ROE Vs WADE[7]
It is not far from probable that this landmark decision will be high on the list of many who oppose abortion, in every form, regardless of the health of the mother, incest or rape.  This absolute position in America suggests that any group or individual who sees with absolute perspective that a woman does not have the right to decide with her doctor, what would be in her best interest, would certainly be in the group that would target the repeal of Affirmative Action.  Roe V. Wade exists by a thin thread when it comes to not only the respect of women’s rights, but the protection as well.  Roe V. Wade is on the list, I am more than sure that if Affirmative Action is repealed, abortion will once again return to back rooms where anyone with a coat hanger will be able to perform an illegal procedure.  Correct me, if I am wrong.

Time overdue to repeal Roe v. Wade:

3.      EQUAL PAY FOR WOMEN[8]
For more than 50 years, the fight for equal pay has been non-stop for women.  And then, President Obama seemed to have ruined everything for opponents of equal pay by signing into law, by executive order, the Lilly Ledbetter Act of 2010[9].  The fact that it took over 50 years, and its apparent strong opposition, would make it a likely candidate for those who oppose Affirmative Action, to include the furtherance of the Lilly Ledbetter Act.

Does Mitt Romney Support Equal Pay for Women?: 




4.      VOTING RIGHTS ACT OF 1965[10]-
It is an Act that has no shortage of detractors.  States, districts and precincts across the United States are in opposition of a landmark piece of legislation that holds accountable any area that prior to 1965 had a history of suppressing or prohibiting voting in elections of those of African-American descent.


 
5.      TITLE IX, EDUCATION AMENDMENTS OF 1972:[11]
Title IX requires that any educational institution receiving federal funds not discriminate against anyone on the basis of sex.  This ultimately meant that educational institutions would have to take money from Peter to pay for Pauline’s athletic programs.  We can only imagine what an “inconvenience” this must have been to school athletic programs with if nothing else, a designated budget for predominantly men athletic-based programs.  The doors did not exactly bust wide open for young women interested in track and field, swimming, basketball or softball.  The money was not going to start rolling in, especially in as equal amounts for male dominated sports.  It is reasonable to conclude that for the most part, and for more than 30 years, men-based sports such as football and basketball bring in the most dollars to schools, and that for any other group to come in on those male-dominated sports that brought in the big bucks, it was not going to go over well.  So, when the repeal of Affirmative Action becomes a given, please bet on Title IX being near the top, if not at the top of the list of Acts and Legislation to be targeted using the model that is on the table to repeal Affirmative Action.
Opposition Claims Title IX Discriminates Against Men

6.      Nineteenth Amendment to the Constitution[12]
Ratified in 1920, women regained the right to vote.  It was an issue for women to vote in America, although they were, theoretically, American citizens.  But their voices were suppressed, their involvement was that of supportive roles to the various political leaders of their time.  Although America sits poised to possibly elect her first female President of the United States, don’t for a second think that the mold is not being set to repeal women’s rights to votes, the same as it is to repeal a woman’s choice to decide on her physical well-being between her and her doctor.  The dye will be cast, the moment Affirmative Action is repealed.  This will be on the list, even if not at the top.  America is going into reverse.

Nineteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution:



7.      Housing Discrimination [13]

While recently determined in two instances here in the Gulf South that Housing Discrimination exists, it suggests that the will to discriminate is as strong as ever, and the possibility of repealing discrimination laws will certainly rank high on the list of laws to be repealed. 



REPEAL AFFIRMATIVE ACTION

The probability is highly likely that soon, if not right away, Affirmative Action will be repealed.  For those who don’t think it will be a big deal, you are probably right.  It won’t be a big deal to those who will be least impacted, and that would be the majority white society who see Affirmative Action as a program that takes one unfair advantage and puts in its place another unfair advantage.  Repealing Affirmative Action will restore the previous unfair advantage, and all should be well with the world, theoretically.

Supreme Court Takes New Case on Affirmative Action, From Michigan:


There is something to be said however, that the model, mold, or template for removing Affirmative Action will be cemented for other unpopular or seemingly unfair legislation that takes one unfair advantage and replaces it with another.  Whether it’s Title IX, the 19th Amendment, the Voting Rights Act, the Lilly Ledbetter Bill, or any other landmark legislation, including the Affordable Healthcare Act (Obamacare), the dye will be cast, and for those of us who are not paying attention, the repealing of Affirmative Action will be the least of our concerns.

WHAT IS AN OPTION?

If you are not interested in whether Affirmative Action is being repealed, then go on about your lives.  But mind that your disinterest need not change when it has been repealed and the next move, which will not be subtle, targets programs that may affect your way of life, whether it is racially based, sexually based, housing, religion or even if it affects your income.  If you have an option at all, you have an option right now, to get in bed with those whose lives maybe affected by the repealing of Affirmative Action.  Even if it is not in your best interest, in theory, to stand against this action, consider the next move.  Call your congressman, or senator, and advise them of your revised position to ensure that Affirmative Action is not repealed.  If that is too bold a move for you, then resume your normal activities.  I will more than likely see you on the front lines protesting something by which Affirmative Action was the model for moving forward. 






Sunday, June 9, 2013

STOP TEACHING OUR CHILDREN RIGHT FROM WRONG! © 2013 by Wayne D. Lewis, Sr.

Think about the many things that we try to teach our children as they grow up.  Many of those things center around what is right and what is wrong.  As parents we want our children to be good, law abiding kids who respect the rights of others and who follow the Golden Rule.[1]  The rule that simply says, ‘do unto others as you would have others do unto you.’  That’s all that we should want for our children. But realistically, many of us as parents fall way short of preparing our children for the world of today that they are about to enter.  As a matter a fact, I believe that if all we teach our children is the Golden Rule, we are setting our children up for failure.  Because the truth is, as important as it is to teach our children to respect others as we would wish to respected, this is not the world.  This is not the world that will act in kind to our loving children, whom we continue to try and convince that the world is a place that will treat you as you treat it.  We are setting our children up for a tremendous disappointment unless we take the Golden Rule off of the table, or make it the very last thing that we teach our children, even as they begin taking their first steps in life.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.[2]

It is only right that we teach our children to respect others as we would them to be respected, in all that they do, and with all whom they meet.  But here is where we, as parents and communities, maybe falling short.  We focus only on how our children should treat others, instead of instructing them to see how others will treat them.  Many of our children, whom we want only the best for, are often victimized by the very society that is supposed to protect them, or make a way for them.

If we were only talking about bullies, pedophiles, or other sexual deviants, that would be one thing.  But our children have to be on guard for other aspects of their lives that under the code of law, puts them at grave social risk early on in their lives, and possibly, by design.  And if we aren’t preparing our children to be on guard for educational systems that cheats them by not providing books or qualified teachers, then we are short-changing our children.  If we aren’t preparing our children by telling them that police officers are only there to serve and protect a select few, then we are doing our children injustice.  Whether it is education, criminal justice, healthcare, economics, or politics, we can no longer send our children out of our homes armed with just the Golden Rule, and then try to console them because everyone else is inclined to steal from them the very best that life has to offer.  In actuality, right from wrong is no longer relative to the society that currently exists, and the sooner our children learn this, the better.

As parents and communities, we need to put into context many important issues for our children that no longer focuses only on the differences between right and wrong, but between the rich, and the impoverished; the powerful and the weak; the politically connected versus the politically disenfranchised. Our children need to understand why a Constitutionally-guided country makes exceptions for crimes when it comes to those who are well-off, and literally plans prison populations for those who are economically disadvantaged, because right is relative.   It will be hard to explain, but our children will need to understand that if they are White that it is okay to be prejudice, racist, feel superior, and that if they are anything but White, that they should acclimate themselves to a life of fighting to prove that they are not second class citizens, and that because they are anything other than White, that right is relative. 

We should prepare our children for a life that confusingly presents the fact that those who look like them aren’t always in their corner, and anyone who is different from them, may well be their best friend.  We should prepare our children for a life where being on opposite sides of the (political) aisle means that you don’t collaborate or partner with anyone who is not of your party unless it benefits you specifically and to hell with your constituents.  Certainly our children will need to be duly informed that if they are against initiating, against continuing, or wishing to stop war, that they will be considered as cowards and un-American. 

As oppose to teaching our children right from wrong, we should instead, focus on their sexuality where the world will judge them because they will have to defend what we all pretend to know, in our heart of hearts, that because they are gay or lesbian, that they are supposed abominations before God, and couldn’t possibly be as much as a gift of God as anyone else.  Teaching therefore of our children, that we should be the judge of all, who is seemingly not like us.

We should in effect, dispense with the Golden Rule teachings to our children. Instead, inform them that their roles in life will be predisposed to being judged as to whether they are ready to be subjected to psychological evaluations that in themselves seem to be predisposed to medications designed to create a psychological profile akin to if not exactly Attention Deficit Disorder, or Attention Defecit Hypertensive Disorder (ADD, or ADHD)[3] that in our day was once considered needing a good wacking across the butt, detention, or both.

Last, but not least, we can’t teach our children right from wrong if they don’t know that they will forever be pigeon-holed as a leader or follower, a hero or a looser, rich or poor, good-looking, or unattractive.  They will in effect be labeled and have pressure applied to them to be anything other than a child.  Therefore, I believe we as parents, and communities, have our work cut out for us.

I believe that for many of us as parents, we think that many of the things that our children will ever really need to know or be aware of, won’t matter until they are in their early teens, or maybe, as a result of possibly naïveté and perhaps rose-colored glasses as parents, we don’t believe that our children need to be exposed to a lot of things that this harsh, cruel world has to deliver until they are adults.  We as parents try to take the most wondrous route possible to preserve our children’s innocence.  God knows that our children grow up fast enough, and that anything that we can do to preserve their youth, we do so, lovingly.  But, we maybe doing our children a tremendous injustice, perhaps even, a grave injustice.

The world at large presents to us not only as parents, but also as communities, challenges that we can no longer protect our children from observing, or being apart.  Yes, the world drops at many of our doorsteps great and positive opportunities, and we should be prepared and quick to take advantage of them.  But the world, in its unapologetic manner drops at many of our feet, instances of crises, biases, and outright injustices that we can no longer allow our children to be shielded from when it is convenient.  The world is no longer compromising or accommodating.  So, as parents and as communities, we need to step up our roles to teach our children far more important things than the difference between right and wrong, let alone, the Golden Rule.  

In essence, the difference between right and wrong should be moved far down the list of those things that will most likely impact our children’s lives, almost immediately to their being able to walk, speak and, bless their hearts, comprehend so quickly of the things that are going to be happing early on in their young lives.  Let’s make no mistakes, all of our children are extremely perceptive at a young age.  So what do we focus on right now that right and wrong has been pushed to the back of the list to teach them?  Below, in no particular order, are five areas that I believe we need to focus on as it relates to helping our children mature into the world today, as it relates to education, criminal justice, healthcare, politics and economics.  You may have other areas that you believe are more important.  But the point is, we can no longer allow our children’s intelligence be insulted by putting right and wrong as the exclusive lesson that we teach our children, to the disadvantage of knowing how to reasonably protect themselves in the world at large.  Let’s discuss.

*      Education-If we had to prepare our children for education, it would be to the effect that mothers and fathers have to begin almost at conception to find the perfect outlet to augment the brilliance of our children to be.  Almost instantly, our children will need to begin studying to be tested as gifted.  They are not going to walk their little happy selves into a given school, be a public or private, ready to prepare to color within the lines or circles.  No, our children will have to know Einstein’s Theory of Relativity (E=mc2)[4] in order to get into the “best” school(s).  Educating our children on education will also require them to understand that possibly, they may have to attend a school that is in a different neighborhood despite the fact there is one next door, or perhaps no further than the corner grocer.  Prepare our children for that part of their education where they may have to be tested on tests for the sake of testing, not on independent thoughts.  As a matter of fact, it would be great to ensure that our children never worry about thinking for themselves, as that is greatly frowned up, here in America.  In addition, let our children know to be on guard for programs that promises to be to their benefit with catchy names such as “No Child Left Behind”[5], even though the dropout rates of their classmates will indicate otherwise.  Of course, we should make every effort to educate our children as they prepare for life after high school, that college is optional.  And that if they decide to pursue their future via a college or university, pull out the calculator to determine exactly how much their future income will help off-set the cost of their education, as paying off student loans becomes an issue into the grave, literally.[6]

*      Criminal Justice-Where else should we teach our children right from wrong if we are not talking about crime? The problem is that right from wrong as it relates to the criminal justice system begins to crack and crumble when men and women are falsely arrested or accused and subjected to a system that grows merely by this offensive approach to justice.  Those who are innocent suffer injustices that our criminal justice system chooses to believe that everyone is guilty unless they are decidedly innocent.  What we need to teach our children is to prepare for their innocence to always be in question to their detriment, as the Criminal Justice system imprisons lives not behind bars, but also by reputations.  A wrongful arrest has to be expunged, but the record is permanent.  We have to teach our children that police officers are under a tremendous amount of stress and strain, and that in cases too many to count, the accidental killing of an unarmed person is the necessary detriment that police agencies will not necessarily work to improve on, so for our children, they need to be on guard and make sure that they always comply with the lawful, and oft unlawful demands of those who wear badge and gun.                     Teach our children that the Criminal Justice system’s perspective of having balanced scales is suspect and requires calibration that won’t happen anytime soon.  Teach our children that the courts speak with absolute power to those who are poor and who cannot afford an attorney accept one who can offer then to plead out even when they are innocent.  That the same court may offer to someone of means and opportunity a greater opportunity of freedom, because freedom is very expensive when it comes to a personal attorney.  Teach our children these important perspectives as it relates to Criminal Justice, that if anything, make sure that they are financially fit to face a criminal justice system bent on building a population by hook or crook, rather than by guilt or innocence.


*      Healthcare-Despite the fact that “Obamacare”[7] proposes to offer healthcare for all Americans, it will come at a price.  Our Republican colleagues will stress the tax implications, and will, as in the case of our own governor of Louisiana, refuse to accept funding for Medicaid [8], where it would otherwise help provide healthcare for thousand’s of uninsured Louisianians and other citizens across the United States.  Democrats, their political counter-parts, will suggest that the Affordable Health Care Act[9] provides a tremendous benefit to millions of Americans who would otherwise not be insured. [10] Regardless of the argument, our children need to be pre-advised that their health or the care of it, will constantly hang in the balance when it becomes the ping-pong ball in the game of politics.  Teach our children to be forever aware of not only the cost, but the source of their healthcare.  There is no absolute answer as we speak, even as the Affordable Healthcare Act prepares to kick into full gear by 2014[11], but we cannot allow our children of today to walk into the future without being reasonably informed and prepared on those issues relating to whether they will be covered due to the fact they may have a pre-existing illness, or if they acquire a life-threatening illness.  Teach our children that their future will rely on them heavily investing their intelligence and monies in protecting not only their health, but that of their families to come.

*      Politics-One of the things that we should teach our children about politics is that it is consistent:  Make promises-break promises.  The other thing about politics that we can teach our children is that politics makes strange bedfellows, which simply means that even if our elected leaders pledge to fight against someone whose agenda is against ours, we should not be surprised when our elected official joins in partnership with that opposing politician.  It is important to teach our children as quickly as possible that politics affects them everyday and in everyway.  We need to teach our children that politics affects not only the fact that they were born, but even if they are aborted.  Teach our children that politics affects not only that they get educated, but also where they get educated, who educates them, and what they get educated on.  We need to not leave our children in the dark when it comes to politicians who write laws that they exempt themselves from.[12]  That politicians often are allowed to forget that they work for us, and that if ever we remind them, that they will pull rank on their constituents by pulling funding, cutting jobs, and other benefits to remind us that we got it twisted about whose in control.  More than anything, we may actually encourage our children to be politicians so that they live a life puts them in the driver’s seat and allows them to make promises that they don’t have to keep, and only cater to their constituents when it comes time to run for election.  Whatever we teach our children, please leave a little room to stress that we are painting with a broad brush all politicians because it is easier to focus on those whose reputations give being a politician a negative reputation.  The change of that perception, as we will teach our children, relies on those politicians who are willing to change that image, not that of the citizens.


*      Economics-Will we need to be economists to teach our children about the economics that they will be subjected to?  I don’t think so, but let me make sure that I state my disclaimer that I am not an economist, CPA, attorney, medical professional, or a member of the clergy, and that all information here is deemed to be from reliable sources but not guaranteed.  We can only teach our children so much when it comes to the economy.  We can prepare our children to learn all that they can in order to be the best employee or business owner that they can be.  But if we don’t emphasize to our children that the economy is subject to change, without notice, our children may find themselves in an unemployment line, homeless, loosing their businesses, or having lost all of their investments.  We can’t afford to allow our children to become adults without emphasizing to them to save their money by investing in as many long terms stocks or metals, commodities or what have you as history suggests.  Yes, we can remind them of the Stock Market crashes of 1987 and 1929[13], but we should always focus on the positive.  We may not know exactly what our children should invest in, but we should be at least directing them to consult with the most reliable professionals possible to purchase insurance or to protect their financial welfare, so that they don’t find themselves homeless, broke and penniless. 

Conclusion
We are always going to be concerned about our children’s welfare.  We are always going to try to teach them right from wrong.  But this is a new and more aggressive world.  It is a world that is prepared to take our children and chew them up and spit them out, at birth, perhaps while the placenta may still be attached.  From the moment they are born, we have to put our parental jeans in overdrive to ensure that our children are on the super highway of life.  If it was only the internet that we had to make sure that our children were up to speed on, we might not have as much to worry about.  But right and wrong is truly the least of our worries.  We maybe able to integrate a little right or wrong along the way, but the world that our children is coming into is ready to disavow any association with a child who expects to be treated nicely because they were nice first. 

For our children going forward, The Golden Rule will only get an honorable mention if it becomes a weapon that our children use offensively, if not maliciously while mastering testing and gaining a birth in a school for the gifted.  The Golden Rule will be a footnote in our children’s success unless we work overtime to make sure that they don’t get caught off guard academically, politically, through healthcare protection, the economy or through the turnstile of our Criminal Justice System.  Unless we stop focusing on teaching our children to be nice in a world that has decided that our children aren’t worthy of being respected or treated with dignity, our children are going to pay a horrible price if all we are teaching them is to follow the Golden Rule. 
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[1]“The Golden Rule”: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+7%3A12&version=NIV
[2] http://biblehub.com/proverbs/22-6.htm
[4] Einstein’s Theory of Relativity-http://csep10.phys.utk.edu/astr161/lect/history/einstein.html
[5] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_Child_Left_Behind_Act
[6] http://www.ehow.com/about_7518669_happens-student-loans-die.html
[12] Congress exempts itself from laws- http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1P1-28259514.html
[13] http://www.ehow.com/facts_5028704_stock-market-crash-history.html