Tuesday, July 16, 2013

PREPARE FOR YOUR NEXT MOVE 2014© 2013 by Wayne D. Lewis, Sr.


PREPARE FOR YOUR NEXT MOVE 2014© 2013

 by Wayne D. Lewis, Sr.

 

 

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you

             have to play better than anyone else.”

                                                Albert Einstein[1]

 
 

Theme: What is your Master Plan?

 

2014 is less than 7 months away.  For many of us, it will be another year filled with surprises.  For many of us, it will be a time with newborns, weddings, promotions, and, unfortunately, job losses, divorces, and most certainly, deaths,  In 2014, there will be elections of Congressional and Senatorial representatives, Mayors, Governors, and other important community representatives.  There will be passages of laws and ordinances, some of which yet to be put on the table, others that will have already been passed, and just waiting for January 1, 2014.  Just like the Affordable Care Act, or Obamacare.  We can expect new construction of stores, apartments, and homes in 2014.  Regardless of what is going to happen in 2014, we will have an opportunity to take part in, or witness some extraordinary things.  Many of which I hope will be positive achievements for all involved, deaths, divorces and job losses excluded.

 

Coming in 2014-Jurassic Park:


 

But this post is not about what is going on in businesses, organizations or politics, per se.  It is about us, as individuals.  The question before us, if we are interested is, what is our Master Plan?  What does 2014 hold for us, and how do we plan to fulfill our dreams and desires for a successful year?  What are we doing today?  Are we on track?  Are we on a track at all?  Or, are we winging it?  Or, are we hoping that everything will go right, by chance?  I don’t think that we are, but I want to make sure that we all share a common goal in pursuing our various achievements, especially for 2014.

 

Three meanings for Master Plan[2]

n.- A plan giving comprehensive guidance or instruction.

n- a comprehensive long-term strategy

n- a general plan for achieving an objective.

 

Each of the above meanings are similar, with an emphasis, whether implied or stated on a “plan”.  Note however, the other terms associated with having a Master Plan:  comprehensive guidance or instruction; comprehensive long-term strategy and, a general plan for achieving an objective.

 

While I like these references, the one that most addresses where I hope we all are striving for is, a “comprehensive guidance or instruction” “for achieving “ a “long-term strategy”.  Can we do that?  Yes! We should be able to do anything that puts us in a position that allows our goals or our plans to take on a life of their own.  What most sticks out to me is “long-term strategy”.  For us, looking forward for 2014, we need a long-term strategy.  We need to know that day by day, week by week and so on, that we know where we are at any given time, and where we need to be because we have a long-term strategy.  We need to know, that absent any major change in our lives, that is unforeseeable, and/or uncontrollable, we are on track to achieve some great things.  Basically, and theoretically, we are track to make our Master Plan a thing of reality.  But commitment is the key, and we need to understand that there will be many distractions along the way.  We probably need to incorporate into our long-term strategy a distraction-detector, so that anytime a “shiny object” appears in our line of vision, we give it a test.  For example:

  1. What does this mean to my goals and objectives?
  2. How much will this improve my plans to meet my goals?
  3. Is there a financial benefit to this particular distraction?

 

New Halo coming in 2014 for Xbox 4:


 

You may come up with your own test, but this is very important for those of us (like me) who get up on shiny objects, and before we know it, we are behind on our schedules and plans.  And who do we have to blame?  No one but ourselves.  So, putting a type of distraction test in place, within our strategies, would be a great idea. 

 

Intel Broadwell Coming In 2014, 14 Nanometer On Track:


 

Right Now

Right now, let’s assume the worst.  Let’s assume that we have allowed ourselves to distracted by a “shiny object”.  Let’s assume that we have no goals at all, or that we put our goals on the back burner because everything that we have done for 2013 has failed.  Let’s assume, for the sake of argument, that everything that we have done for 2013 is about to crumble and fall, but we are willing to do what we can to make it better.  That right now, with our dreams firmly fixed on 2014, we can turn things around and begin to do something to erase any semblance of the errors, mistakes, or shiny objects that we have focused on too long.  Why make this assumption? 

 

For many of us, we get too comfortable when we start accomplishing our goals.  Things start going well, and all of the things that we did to get to where we are, well, we let them go.  We begin to believe that everything is all well.  For many of us, we assume that it’s smooth sailing all the way- all the way into retirement.  It is not unusual that for those of us who get well on our way, that we discard, or disregard all of the wonderful things that we have done to become the success that we are.  But somewhere, somehow, the engine starts sputtering.  Some how or another, either through a failure to use foresight or, to be mindful of the many economic changes that are happening around us, we find ourselves loosing altitude.  And unfortunately, some of us start gaining a little attitude-a bad attitude.  We blame everyone else, instead of looking at how we have allowed our strategy to get out of hand.   Let’s not blame anyone else.  We are still in charge of our destiny, and we still can recover from our shortfalls, if we want to.  We just need to get back to the basics, quickly. 

 

If not quickly enough, we may learn all too soon, or too late, that things have changed, people who played a role in our achievement have moved on.  Their support, while still valued, will not make the difference instantly, we will need to rebuild relationships that we should have maintained all along.  Right now, we need to look at where we are, and do some serious regrouping, recovery, and refocusing.

 

Publisher: Sen. Warren book coming out in 2014:


 

What did it take to be successful before?

As a sales professional, we are affected by numbers.  Allow me if you will, to superimpose numbers in this discussion, for demonstration purposes only.  Your circumstances may vary.

Numbers for us as sales professional speak to us.  We are virtually required to look at how many contacts we have made, how many people did we talk to, or how many sales did we close.  Without getting into complex math, as sales people, we are constantly aware that if we set a goal to call 100 people a week, and that if we are doing this consistently, that we should net 3 out of 10 calls that result in a lead.  This suggests 30 people.  Does this mean a sale?  No, it suggests that we have a possible lead.  If for example, out of the 30 people that we do talk to, 10 give us  additional leads, other than themselves.  Believe it or not, we are making progress.  How does that translate at this point?

 

If out of 100 calls, we get 10 leads, that’s 10% of where we started.  Of that 10, we need to be able to pull half or 5 prospects whom we believe are serious about buying a home.  If we are committed to the basics, we should be able to meet this goal at least once a week.  That is, if we are serious about our goals to sell 20 homes a month, or possibly 120 homes a year.  That is, if we are on a workable track.  But, we have to commit to doing this everyday.  As sales professionals, we have to commit to this exercise of building business everyday, expecting an outcome that will pay off in the long run and, for the long term.

 

Again, this is just one portion of a goal.  There are other aspects, such as, how much do we anticipate the average price to be of the homes that we sell, or how many of these homes are listed.  Other goals include calling FOR SALE BY OWNERS, or calling expireds.  If for us, as sales professionals, we fall short of our overall goal, then we need to look at what we are doing, or failing to do that keeps us from meeting our goals.  It is at this point, we need to know where we need to be, and that whatever sacrifices we have made before, we now have to make them again, if not by next month, but by 2014.  And, if we stay on track, we are going to achieve some phenomenal things.

 

What is the Need for Developing an Individualized Master Plan?

Earlier, we mentioned that coming in 2014, there will no doubt be the implementation of several Master Plans on many major fronts.  Many of these plans (not our own) will require us as citizens, students, or employees, to do a certain set of things in order for others’ plans to be successful.  Some of those plans will require that we either register for assistance, submit bids, pay taxes, pay increased fees, take courses and/or certifications, or, adjust our lifestyles accordingly in some significant way in order for others’ plans to be successful.  As long as it is legal what is required of us, it is fair to conclude that others’ Master Plans will all be successful. 

 

 
 But what about our own Master Plans?  And what will we require of others in order to help us achieve success going forward?  Do we need a Master Plan? I believe that we do, and the sooner we realize that, the sooner we will determine the essential elements or components necessary to achieve our goals.  Our Master Plan, as we can refer to it, if we choose, is our most serious commitment to our goals.  No doubt we have seen others who have maintained some semblance, if not an exact template of a Master Plan.  For example, athletes who participate in the Olympics.  They are the greatest example of individuals who are extremely committed to their goals, and work diligently to achieve success in areas such as swimming, gymnastics, track, wrestling and/or any Olympic-oriented team sports such as basketball.  We need not stop at sports or the Olympics.  We know that others have their commitment to their goals in areas of science, engineering, business, and politics.  There are many great examples of those who have executed their Master Plans, and who, like many of us, have found a way, when they have fallen short, or have had to start from scratch, they end up achieving a greater amount of success, using their own Master Plan.

 

Countdown!

Is it possible to have a Master Plan on an individual level?  I believe it is, but it is important to understand what a Master Plan means.  It essentially means that we have a long term plan that, regardless of who is the Mayor, or the President, that our success is on-going.  It means that for us, our Master Plan sells itself, to the point that others want to get on board.  In order for that to happen, we must be committed beyond this week or this month.  It means that we are committed well into 2014 and beyond.  But before 2014 gets here, we have to take stock of where we are today, and what it is that it will take to have a successful Master Plan. 

 

If for many of us, we already have a Master Plan, then there is no need to keep reading this.  You are set.  But for others of us who have yet to put together a Master Plan, we need to do our homework so that we don’t continue to fall short of our goals.  So what are the necessary components needed to put together a great Master Plan? 

 


 

No Need to Reinvent the Wheel

Our lives are surrounded by successful men and women, as well as businesses that have been out here for quite some time.  Many of those who surround us successfully have managed to survive technological challenges, economic challenges, and other challenges unique to their respective areas, that have done very little to keep them from achieving their various goals and objectives.  For these achievers, the wheel rolls and rolls and rolls.  How and why is up to us to ask, research, but never assume that we know how they accomplish what they do.  But, we should be seeking their wisdom and experience in terms of how, as individuals, and businesses they continue to be successful.  By doing our homework, we avoid reinventing the wheel for success.  Below is an example of what we should be looking for in our research.  Our circumstances may differ..

 

 

  • What is it that you want to accomplish for 2014 and beyond?
    • How do you plan to do this?
    • What Personal Resources will you access?
        • What is it that you will continue to do or, continue to do?
          • How many widgets do you plan to sell?
          • How many contacts will you make to promote your goals?
  • Budget
    • How much monthly, annually
    • Who will monitor/oversee
    • Sources of funds
    • What will be funded?
      • Equipment
      • Supplies
      • Personnel
      • Memberships
      • Miscellaneous
  • Source of Income and financial support
    • Sales
    • Existing job income
    • Loan(s)
    • Donations and/or contributions
  • What changes are you willing to make to achieve your goals?
    • Streamline previous goals and objectives
    • Disengage friendships, partnerships or negative relationships
    • Invest in new friendships, partnerships or positive relationships (association memberships, community activities, or professional activities)
    • Invest in any academic, or educational activity that increases credentials
  • Personal Goals that include weight loss, savings, starting a business, completing long term or short projects
    • 2015 Annual Goals-Start at #1
    • 2016 Annual Goals-Start at #1

 

State of Maryland Information Technology Master Plan Fiscal Year 2014:


 

Does Calling it a Master Plan make it more likely that it will be achieved?

It is really a matter of it all being up to us, individually.  When we look at governmental entities, businesses and organizations, schools, or churches, etc. they have the luxury of committees and groups that sit down and work out the pros and cons of what their future holds.  As individuals, we may only have the luxury of family and close friends whom we may trust to put together an action plan and get their feedback.  If that is the case, then, that is great that we have some type of support system.  Otherwise, individually, we have to sit down with ourselves and map out strategies that we will need to either incorporate, or assemble for a better possibility of achievement.  Will calling it a Master Plan make it more achievable? 

 

If it is a plan at all, that is great in itself.  But what makes it most achievable is the attention to detail and follow through.  We can call it tomato soup if we want to, but if we aren’t following through and doing the things that we outlined in our plan, then it doesn’t matter what we call it. 

What makes all of this most achievable is our desire to see it come true, and our commitment to make corrections, add to it, or even take things out of the plan that we know will not help us in the long run.  It’s not what we call our plans, it’s how we apply ourselves to what we have put on the table.  If calling our goals for 2014 and beyond a Master Plan, and it motivates us to do every single thing, every single day, then, Master Plan it is!  But always be mindful of the commitment factor.  That’s what truly makes it a master plan: commitment and following through.

 

Infrastructure master plan implementation begins 2014 — Minister:


 

Conclusion-What Great Things Are You Preparing for in 2014?

The first time I ever paid attention to the term Master Plan, it seemed offensive.  It seemed as though it implied rigidity, unyielding, inflexible.  And while that impression hasn’t changed much, I now embrace the term. I embrace, and hope that you will too with respect to what you have to accomplish in your life for 2014.  I guess the rigidity factor to me suggested that there was no room for change, or adjustments.  I know now that the perception of inflexibility was important, even for me.  I was slow to embrace any plan that did not suggest that I could erase, backspace, or delete something along the way.  While that maybe true for cities, organizations, schools or companies, that can’t be true for us, as individuals.  Yes, we should have a rigid plan.  We should have something that puts us on a solid track into the future.  But we should never assume that adjustments, corrections, or deletions can’t be made in our goals.  After all, we are humans, not machines. 

 

Setting reasonable goals for 2014 may mean, a “comprehensive guidance or instruction” “for achieving “ a “long-term strategy”.  It may mean, having a goal is better than having none at all.  But having a goal that challenges us means the most of all.  As long as our goals serve as some type of guidance or instruction, we should be able to achieve great things for 2014.  We should be able to measure our success, day by day, month by month, and not fall prey to “shiny objects”.  It will be tough and challenging to get ready for 2014, but if it worth striving for, it is worth sacrificing by remaining committed to all of our achievable goals.  Good luck going forward for 2014, and beyond.

 

 

Links on setting Goals and Master Plans:







 

 

All information deemed to be from reliable sources but is not guaranteed.  Please consult with your respective professionals before beginning any financial, medical, or legal regiment.  Your results may vary.



[1] Albert Einstein Quote- http://thinkexist.com/quotation/you_have_to_learn_the_rules_of_the_game-and_then/253063.html
[2]3 meanings for the term Master Plan-  http://www.thefreedictionary.com/master+plan



Sunday, July 7, 2013

I APOLOGIZE FOR USING THE N-WORD (C) 2013 by Wayne D. Lewis, Sr

Theme:  Moving Forward 

  Caution: May contain offensive language, Parental discretion advised.  Information provided deemed to be from reliable sources, but not guaranteed.

It has been over two weeks since the most recent report of a celebrity having used the N-Word.  And it wasn’t a recent use of the word, just a recent reporting.  The incident is said to have happened at least a year ago.  2 weeks of unnecessary apologies and humble-pie.  Not only that, there have been 2 weeks of instigation and agitation by the media.  And to add insult to injury, there have been 2 weeks of outrage and indignation not only by those who are supporters of the reported offending party, but also by those who are reportedly offended. Unfortunately, it furthers a cause that does not seek to bring people together, but instead accomplishes an ultimate and divisive mission: To take so many of us off of our game.  Mission Accomplished!


Knowing that there is no shortage of opinions on this latest distraction, I can’t offer anything reasonably significant.  But it is important that I look for at least one relative component this blog- a financial component.  There is one, and I will reference it shortly.  But first, I thought I would share several thoughts on this issue as it relates to People of Color.  Here are my thoughts, in no particular order:

It is 2013, isn’t it?  It would have appeared by this time in history, that we would have cured cancer, cured hunger, and achieved world peace.  But that would be too easy.  It would be too easy that we as adults, are still on the playgrounds of America (which are fast becoming fewer by the way), that this is a major story: The N-Word.  What does this say about us, as adults, who are role models for our children that we can still call each other names and, it still is a headline event?  Is the story who used the N-Word, or how it was used?  What are the rules?  Is there an etiquette guide so that even we, People of Color, know when to say The N-Word?  Who can say it, and when it is a “term of endearment”? 

N-Word Etiquette (subject to verification)[2]-Based on the excessive use of the word and the variety of ways it has been used, it would appear that there would be a guide.  I don’t believe there is a guide, and I hope that there never will be, please join with me in this  wish.  Given the controversy over who can use it and who can’t use it, there should be a single-purposed approach as we work to move forward as a community, and that is to put the N-Word to rest, once, and for all. At least with People of Color.

The possibility of retiring the N-Word is no doubt, a pipe dream, and that is unfortunate.  Why?  We may need to dig a little deeper to see why that is, and then hopefully, we can move forward.  Let us look at three groups first:  Agitators, Aggressors and The Offended

Agitators[3].  I remember reading this word and hearing it being used by government officials during the Civil Rights era in movies.  Back then, agitators were said to be those who were from outside an area, causing problems between the races.  That was back in the 50’s and 60’s in an effort to keep outsiders from disturbing the perceived peaceful co-existence between the races.  Today, we still have agitators.  I believe it is the media.  I believe that a story can be made out anything so long as it can stir up today’s “coloreds” or “negroes”.  As I perceive the agitators, in the form of the media, their sole purpose is to contribute to, or stir up divisiveness.  I believe that the media is that “playground kid” whose success or lack thereof was determined by how much they contributed to destroying relationships, even at the expense of however it would have otherwise benefited or even hurt them.  For the agitator, it doesn’t matter, let’s destroy relationships, let’s destroy lives.  Why?  The media is a financial powerful entity.  And if there isn’t a controversy,  “Damn it! We’ll stir it up ourselves!” is the impression the media seems to project.  In other words, for that proverbial playground bully, now an adult (now the media): do something, do anything, to prevent diversity and unity within these walls, or within these borders, of the United States of America.  The media’s role is key, because they can’t be held accountable for their actions. 

It is my contention, that the media can say (albeit without printing it) that they had a role in continuing to ensure that grown-ups were so simple, that all one had to do was go to the unwritten rules of the playground and act with malice by beginning a dialogue: “Did you hear what so-and-so said about you? They called you a da-da-da!”  From there, any possibility of a community working together, can go to hell in a hand basket (with a cute little bow on the handle), because in our case, we so easily distracted.  Why is that?  I submit that we are easily distracted because we don’t have the kind of goals that are worth keeping us focused.


Aggressors- The first perception regarding The N-Word is that those who use it in a derogatory manner are White people, or any other race other that People of Color.  I disagree and here is why.  I know for one, that I have used the term a lot in my early years.  It was hardly a term of endearment[4].  As a matter of fact, it often preceded street fights, or at least, an indication that I did not like someone, of color, or that they were at best, an adversary.  So, today, when I hear that it is/was used as a term of endearment, I am wondering, when did they publish that rule change?

The N-Word, if used as a term of endearment, has to be so stipulated, otherwise, I don’t have a relative, friend, or even a co-worker that I can approach using this term as a positive one, where someone who hears it from me, can go all soft inside, and want to man-hug, shake my hand, and then let’s go have a beer.  I thought I was old school, but apparently I missed that class.

As aggressors who use this term, there can be, and should not be a perception of endearment.  The historical nature of the word itself, even till this day, suggests anything other than endearment.   As People of Color, we should be the first and foremost to cease and desist the use of The N-Word, or its application unless, it is to retell our burdened-some history of slavery, civil war, Jim Crow, or any activity that captures the true history of our experiences as People of Color in America. 

As a People of Color, we should set a goal, that this term will no longer be an integral part of who we are, whether as a term of endearment, or the verbal weapon that it is. 

As far as those who choose to be our adversaries, regardless of race, they will have to learn their own lessons.  We can’t hold them to a higher standard than we hold ourselves when it comes to the N-Word, or any other words that we use as People of Color that are as derogatory as well towards our own, in particular, to our Women of Color.  For example:

We are no less aggressors, but transgressors when we subject our Women of Color to terms that compare them to female dogs.  We are no less aggressors, but transgressors when we compare our Women of Color to women of the streets who sell their bodies for pay.  As a people, we should be apologetic to our Mothers of Color; our Wives of Color; our Daughters of Color; our Sisters of Color, as well as our Aunts and Cousins of Color, if we have failed to honor them in song and prose by only fostering an impression that our Women of Color of today have no greater value than those women who stood behind Men of Color throughout Slavery, the Civil Rights Era, Jim Crow, and on into the 21st century.  We should be the ones apologizing, and paying higher homage to our beloveds- our Women of Color.

The Offended

For those of us who are the greatest offended by The N-Word, it is possible that we are too offended because our commitments to what should be most important to us, are not solid enough.  Why is it that this word, can have so great an impact, that it takes on a life well past its historical value and meaning?  It seems to be a term that has more value by our response than it should by it use and application.  This is not to diminish the vulgarity of the term, or excuse those who use it in a derogatory manner.  But it suggests, as was previously referenced, that the playground bully has found that target who is easily rattled, who is easily taken off of their game, and so becomes the one whom the bully continues to antagonize. Let’s put this in a different context.

A basketball player is standing at the free-throw line to earn extra points for a foul.  As he/she stands there, attempting to focus on the goal at hand, in the background, in the stands, fans of the opposing team are waiving their team-colored balloons in the air, and making noises to distract the player.  The player has to choose whether to allow those distractions to work against their intent to make the basket, or to focus strongly, more than ever, on the task at hand.  Whether he/she makes the basket is immaterial at this point, but the fact is, we are always faced with distractions.  And if the N-Word is our distraction, that we have become so offended, that we take our eyes off of our goals, whatever they maybe, we have cost our team the game.

What team?  Our children, and future generations, as well as, past generations.  In essence, we will have shown our children that we are so minimally committed to our goals, that all it takes is for someone to waive balloons in the background, and we will loose our concentration.  One more example:

Many of us drive.  Along the highways are many signs of advertising.  Many of these signs we don’t even have to read because we know them by their color arrangement.  We know the Golden Arches; we know the sandwich design, or the symbol for gas.  We know these, and hardly have to take our eyes off of the road as we are cruising at or about 90mph.  But every once in a while, there is a sign that is unlike any other.  It is a sign that deviates from the rules of advertising.  It maybe positive or negative. Nevertheless, it gets our attention.  Enough so, that we slow down to 80mph, or so, just to see what it is that is being advertised.  If we are not careful, the distraction may result in our taking our eyes off of the road just too long. Perhaps, .001 of a second, and we find ourselves in a rear-end collision, or we may accidentally hit an object on the highway that causes us to blow a tire.  Why?  Because, we took our eyes off of the road, too long.

The N-Word is that distraction.  Our attention to it, our seeking and waiting for an apology, is too time consuming.  We need to get back to the road.  We need to get back to the free-throw line.  We need to focus on our goals.  The N-Word is not going anywhere.  It is a standard, all-time reliable distraction that we, as People of Color, continue to give more time than it’s worth.  But, it works. And what do we do in the meantime?  We are waiting for an apology.  I say: Screw the Apology!

No Apology Needed

“I hate you!”  Regardless of who we are, we should appreciate it if someone indicates that they hate us.  If, for example, someone hates me because of the color of my skin, my long flowing hair (?), my awesome bod (come on, I got to have fun somewhere), or maybe, someone hates me-just because.  If I know it, I can appreciate it.  For us, it should be “No harm-no foul”. 

We should appreciate it as long as someone’s hate is not followed by an act or set of acts that affect us personally, or even our families.   While that may not be a reality, it is a point of reference.  We should greatly appreciate it if that someone tells us directly that they hate us.  In that case, we know where we stand. 

If that hatred results in the use of the N-Word, so be it.  My life is not diminished by someone calling me names, given that name has been thrown at me for the better part of my 50 plus years.   As a matter of fact, it should give us a better sense of awareness in our business dealings.  For anyone of us, that someone’s hatred is that strong, or that intense, then we know that our money, nor our business is good enough for them.  So, we’ll take our business somewhere else.  “No harm-no foul!” (This is a our financial component)

No apology is needed from those who use the N-Word as aggressors, or as agitators.  It is who they are, or whom they choose to be, and in that instance, money is no object.  Business is no object, for us.  However, if there is an uproar that may not die, it is because of the fraudulent manner in which people presented themselves as a business or representative.  If the uproar continues, and they as a business are loosing money, it maybe less about the word itself.  It maybe more about the phoniness, the fraud, or misrepresentation of being above board.  And while a business  may not care, it is very important that in the business world, you are appear to be above derogatory acts that puts your business in a position that offends your (potential) clients, customers and board of directors, investors, or vendors.   If as a business, your business model is always shinny and new, or seems to be impeccable, but your philosophy and ethics are discriminatory, sooner or later, something has got to give.  As a business, we all learn that our true colors will ultimately come out.  No apologies should be made because whatever your business is, it is a reflection of who you are, and you can only hide who you are for so long.  It’s who you are, regardless of what you say, because as a business, your actions speak louder than your words.

People of Color Should be the Ones Apologizing

  1. Distraction-As People of Color, we should be apologizing to our children and future generations for allowing The N-Word to be a distraction to our goals and dreams.  We should be apologetic for the fact that we allow this historically, derogatory term to be suggested as having had a position of endearment between ourselves as brothers and sisters.  We should be apologetic to our children that we have confused them, in that this derogatory term has become integral to defining whom we allow others to view us, rather than focusing on what is most important in our lives.

  1. Prison Population-We should apologize to our children and future generations that we did not prepare them for a society that is bent on increasing its prison populations at the expense of People of Color, because we are perceived to be expendable and having not value to the community at large.  We should commit this day to preparing our children for this society’s goals to incarcerate them, starting at third grade[5]. 

  1. Education-We should apologize to our children and future generations that we have allowed our children of today, to believe that education is an option, that dropping out of school today is a leisure that People of Color can afford, and that the ability to read is overblown.   Let us commit today to preparing our children for graduation. [6] 

  1. AIDS/HIV-We should apologize to our children and future generation for not enforcing abstinence, or safe sexual practices, that because of our failure, our children will be affected for years to come, as well as their children.  Among People of Color, we make up more than 44% of the people infected with HIV/AIDS virus.  Let us commit today to educating our children on the dangers of AIDS and HIV. [7]

  1. DRUGS AND VIOLENCE-We should apologize to our children and future generations for not preparing them on how to say no to drugs, and how to resolve their differences through verbal interactions, and brotherly love, rather than guns and killings. Let us commit today to ending the use of drugs and reducing violence among our young people. [8]

  1. POLITICAL LEADERS-We should apologize to our children and future generations for not putting in      political leaders who are committed to the achievements of those who fought for racial equality and the right to vote, not those who occupy offices on their family names, nor those who ride the coattails of giants, rather than stand on their shoulders to represent the struggles of the past, and to make a way for those of the future.  We should be greatly apologetic.  Let us commit today to selecting political leaders who are committed to ensuring a future for our rights and the longevity of our community by selecting new leaders who are not career politicians or who run on their family’s name. [9]


  1. HISTORY-  We should apologize to our children and future generations for allowing our children to forget or disregard their history.  We should apologize for not reminding our children, that despite the achievements made, they were not given to us, but were achieved through sacrifices many of today may never be willing to make, including and up death.  We should be apologetic, to our children for not making them mindful, that nothing is guaranteed, even if it is given, because that which is given, via government or community, should not be relied upon, and that our children should always be working to ensure that they never have to depend on someone to give them anything.  Remind our children to work for and earn whatever it is that they have.  Let us commit to remind our children of our history so that they never forget their heritage. [10]


  1. VOTING AND COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT-We should apologize to our children, future generations and of course, past generations,  for not registering to vote, or for not voting for causes that would protect the achievements of People of Color and those who have otherwise benefitted from those achievements.  We should apologize that we gave lip service to community service, but have never set foot in a school, a playground, or any environment where we could have made a difference in one Child of Color’s life.  Let us commit today to remind our young people of the importance of registering to vote and being involved in their communities. [11]



  1. FAMILY-We should apologize to our children and future generations for our failure to keep our family unit together.  We should apologize that mothers and fathers could not work out their differences and live in love and harmony, thereby focusing on the love and care of our children, for whom we have been greatly blessed.  That instead, we, as a People of Color, submitted to society’s blue-print to disengage, to be at odds, or bitter over matters that could best be resolved through prayer and a willingness to commit to make our relationships work. Let us commit today to maintaining the family unit, forsaking opportunities to take the easy way out, whereby, we agree to work through our problems, and endeavor to protect the future of our children in a safe and loving home. [12]


  1. GOD-Last but not least, as People of Color, we should apologize to our children and future generations for not instilling in our children the need to believe in and believe in God.  We should apologize to God, for having failed to recognize the blessings of freedom that no other American has ever had to fight for, in a country whose motto, whose philosophy and trademark is presumably, freedom.  Let us pray and give thanks to God for bringing us, as a people, from a mighty long way.  We should apologize for not instilling in our children of today, that we do not enjoy our tentative freedom because we made it on our own, but because of a living God who helped our ancestors, and our forefathers to overcome the iniquities, if not injustices of a society who has demonstrated on a whole, that racism was and still is, alive and well today in America.   We should apologize that we seem to have forgotten that it was God’s Grace and His Mercy, that has sustained us, and by our own negligence, that we have forgotten, and have gone too far astray, that now, more than ever, our freedom is only a matter of a Supreme Court Decision away.  We should apologize that we have failed to instill in our children of today, that God is why we are where are today, and that if we don’t get back in the good graces of the Lord, that the N-Word will be the least of our concerns. [13]

In Conclusion: Our Response: Moving Forward

As People of Color, we have much work to do.  Our work is not to respond to the distractions, such as the N-Word.  Nor is our work to give value to the distractions themselves.  But instead, to remain focus on the goals that we have at hand.  We have work to do, not in response to what we are called,  but as a result of our sitting down and determining what it is we need to accomplish in our lives.  Irrespective of distractions brought on by the media, or aggressors, bullies, or antagonists, we must be steadfast in achieving relevant goals.  We must be our about moving forward.

We must continue to focus on our dreams, set goals, and no matter how many times the N-Word is thrown at us, know that there were greater sacrifices made by those far more heroic than many of us today may ever be.  Greater were the sacrifices of many of those whom history recognizes.  For example: those who fought victory in  Plessy vs Ferguson in 1954[14]; The Montgomery Boycott of 1955[15]; the Freedom Riders of 1961, which included White people as well as People of Color[16]; The Little Rock 9 of 1957[17];  Ruby Bridges[18], the 4 little girls in the Birmingham Church (Addie Mae Collins, Cynthia Wesley, Carole Robertson and Denise McNair)[19], Medgar Evers[20]; Gabrielle Douglas, U.S. Olympic Gold Metalist[21], and/or Barack Obama, first Father of Color of the United States of America[22].   These are a select few of those People of Color, whose heroic achievements outshine today’s response to the use of the N-Word.[23] They were undaunted and committed to achieving their goals.

In moving forward, as People of Color, among our goals to build homes and bridges, establish jobs and job training, we must establish viable communities, and network with each other for a better way of life, as we work to incorporate into our various missions to ensure the future for our children and future generations.  In other words, ensure that our children are no longer locked up in jails and in prisons throughout America.  For our children and future generations, we work to no longer have to worry about our Sons of Color shooting and killing one another because we will prepare them with formidable goals to achieve.  In moving forward, for our children, dropping out of school will no longer be an option.  For as we move forward, our children will be able to focus on their dreams, because we will instill in them that need to keep their eyes on the prize[24], whether that is to become an Astronaut, or a Football player; whether it is to be political leader or a ballerina; whether it is to be doctor or a disc jockey, we can no longer allow our children to be distracted by engaging in fights, drugs and violence, or anything that will take away from who they are capable of becoming.  We must stand fast with our children in the pursuit of their dreams, helping them to move forward, because that is what was done for us as children of past generations.  We must be strong and not give up.  We must run and not get tired.  We must focus like a laser beam not only our dreams but our children’s dreams as well, so that they can achieve the best that life has to offer.  Do for them as others have done for us, because they kept their eyes on the prize of success and freedom.  Moving forward, we should pledge to remain committed to not only our goals, but to our families, our communities, and to our country, because regardless of how great the challenges are to diminish our citizenship, our loyalty and allegiance, the United States of America is our country.  It is our home.  God Bless America.
Let us continue to move forward, without distractions.














[2] This post does not represent nor does it purport to speak for any one or all African-Americans, Black people, or People of Color.  Opinions shared here are primarily my own.  Information while deemed reliable is not guarantee.
[5] Preparing Children for Prison because of 3rd Grade Reading levels- http://www.invisiblechildren.org/tag/failed-third-grade-reading-scores/
[6] Graduation Rates for Black Males trails those of Whites- http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/19/black-male-hs-graduation-_n_1896490.html
[7] AIDS/HIV virus in the Black Community- http://www.cdc.gov/Features/BlackHIVAIDSAwareness/
[10] African American History Timeline- http://www.infoplease.com/spot/bhmtimeline.html
[12] The Black Family: 40 Years of Lies -Kay S. Hymowitz- ttp://city-journal.org/html/15_3_black_family.html
[15] Montgomery Boycott- http://www.montgomeryboycott.com/
[18] Ruby Bridges- http://rubybridges.com/
[19] Bombing of Church in Birmingham, AL-  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/16th_Street_Baptist_Church_bombing
[21] Gabrielle Douglas- http://gabrielledouglas.com/
[23] This list represents an intentionally short list of individuals and groups who have historically accomplished in the History of America.  There is no intent to slight anyone or to devalue the contribution of anyone living or dead by this listing.
[24] Eyes on the Prize: America's Civil Rights Years 1954–1964- http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092999/plotsummary